Pinky Promises & Covenants

It’s interesting how much God pays attention to our words.

Yea, we are taught He hears our prayers but no one really talks about how He listens to the promises we give to others.

“I pinky promise”

As a little girl, I was introduced to the pinky promise. Boy, that thing felt like it was soul binding…. You better not break it! We promised things both important and insignificant and attached it to a touch that minutes later, we would forget about. Many of those promises were broken as we were young and our attention span was all of 10 minutes lol. And to be honest, many were broken and to this day we are still unaware of it.

“Cross your heart and hope to die”

As we get older, the promises became more real. More was at stake. Our hearts, our feelings, our secrets. We place trust in friends, family, and love interest hoping they would keep our secrets… hoping they would always be there.. Hoping that the relationship would last forever.

And then we grow up.

The reality is by the time you are 18 years old, you have learned to side eye the world. You have broken promises yourself and been betrayed. You have been let down and left out. Friends turned to enemies, lovers cheated, and family disappointed you. The reality of their humanity begins to really weigh on you and yet; it doesn’t stop the cycle from going round.

This year, God has really been showing me the error of my thinking. In all those years, I never really took stock in my broken promises. The times when I was confronted I had to deal with it. And honestly, there was real and fake conviction depending on the situation. But those were “big” situations.

“Even if we aren’t together, I’ll always be there for you.”

“I’ll love you forever.”

How often have you said that? Sure, you meant it in the moment, but when your euphoric emotions washed away, so did your promise.

That was a promise? Absolutely.


The tongue has the power of life and death,
    and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Proverbs 18:21 NIV


 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Ephesians 4:29 NIV

God, takes into account our words. The moments we promised others we would be there, we would support their event, we would keep their secrets, we would never betray them…. Often, we say things with good intentions but without the proper reverence for what we are promising. And God takes account of it all.

God is not man, one given to lies,
    and not a son of man changing his mind.
Does he speak and not do what he says?
    Does he promise and not come through?

Numbers 23:19 MSG

As His children, God is requiring more of us! We are supposed to be like Him which means we should care about our words and the affects of them as well.

Challenge yourself this week to be conscious of your promises. Don’t just say things that sound good, mean them. Hold yourself accountable! As you are faithful, watch your world and theirs change!

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