Diary of a Single Woman, II

On the Eve of my birthday, I’ve been reflecting a lot. (Side note: shoutout to all the January babies!) I reflected on year 33 as I enter 34. One thing I realized that is vitally important is the single season.

Many times, we rush to get boo’d up! Like a bad itch, we seek to remedy the loneliness of being alone.. with ourselves. And if we never stop the continuous dating and situationships we will find ourselves further away from God and our purpose than we intended.

This is temporary…. I’m just going to do this for a little while… I’m in control…

Said everyone at least once.

The single season is a time of maintenance and repair! It’s a season God sets aside to not only do a work in you but build a relationship with you. A time to show you real love and intimacy. It is a place of self evaluation and strength training… But the price is your undivided attention.

“To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: A time to be born, And a time to die; A time to plant, And a time to pluck what is planted; A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up; A time to weep, And a time to laugh; A time to mourn, And a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, And a time to gather stones; A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing; A time to gain, And a time to lose; A time to keep, And a time to throw away; A time to tear, And a time to sew; A time to keep silence, And a time to speak; A time to love, And a time to hate; A time of war, And a time of peace.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 NKJV

In the last 2 years, the greatest amount of growth came when I was focused on God. Thankfully, I was focused more than I was distracted. And in 2020 already, I see a drastic difference from last year:

Where I once compromised, I am resolute.

Where I was timid, I am now bold.

Where fear once ruled me, I fight back with faith.

Where I was insecure, I know who’s I am.

Where I searched for love, I live in it daily.

Where I was afraid of my gifts, I choose to be obedient.

I know what I have to offer and

I am enough.

My sweet sisters, I challenge you to give God a year in your singleness. Time with Him is never a wasted investment. Choose to trust in Him more than earthly things and watch Him show up like never before.

My prayer for you is one I have been praying for myself since January 1st:

I pray that you will daily live in the wonder, awe, and fear of the Lord.”

Proverbs 31:30 TPT

With love,


3 thoughts on “Diary of a Single Woman, II

  1. Happy early birthday! Yes, I feel it’s important for people to be happily single already alone for two key reasons…. 1. So you not looking for someone else to bring happiness into your life, because if they bringing it, that means they taking it as well if they leave your life for whatever reason. 2. If you was already happily single, the average person will be less inclined to just stay in a relationship with someone who contributing to consistent stress and unhappiness in their life just to say they got someone.

    • Thank you! I totally agree. We need to change the narrative about the single season. It’s not a curse! It’s very effective if you use it the right way. 😊

      • You’re welcome…. I’ll never been a person to view single as being a negative thing because everybody who single isn’t unhappy… just like everybody in a relationship isn’t happy…. because the goal in my opinion isn’t to just be able to say you got someone…. I think anybody that look halfway decent can fulfill that….. but instead I’ll hope most people goal is to be with someone they can see as their best friend and a long term future with, someone they think will make a great mom/dad to a child, share similar key life values and goals with, and someone they cherish and value.

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